"Everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every heart. "
-Rumi

Monday, April 11, 2011

Friends Come and Friends Go

I have always known that friends come and go in one's life. It seems like a natural part of life. There are some friends who are meant to be there for a long time, and then there are others who are only in our lives for a short time. Then there are those friends who you think will be there for you for a long time, but life sometimes has other plans for those friends.

I am thinking of one friend in particular. I met this individual my first few days at Coe. Things seemed pretty great. We had a lot in common, hung out all the time, and got to know the inner workings of Coe together. I always imagined that she would be one those friends that I would have in my life for years to come. That all seemed to change right around the time I graduated from Coe. Suddenly our priorities in life seemed completely different. I was worried about what I would be doing with my life after college, and she was worried about who her next boyfriend would be.

I realized that we were drifting apart and wasn't completely thrilled by that. We had been good friends for 2 years, but that doesn't seem to matter anymore. I don't have anything against her. We just have different priorities now. We drifted apart. That happens in life. There is no reason to have animosity towards one another. Just like there is no reason to be rude to the other. Obviously, there is no reason to go out our way to interact with one another. However, if we cross paths, please don't just ignore my existence. Being rude and turning your back to me does no good. It just makes you look like an ass. I hold no grudge. I would like to be able to say "hi" and ask "How is life going? Congrats on getting a job for after graduation!" It would be completely sincere, yet I feel like you wouldn't believe me. I am not asking for us to be friends or to hang out like we used to. Can we at least acknowledge our shared history and common humanity? Is that too much to ask?

I know we will probably never speak since every time I have seen you lately you glare at me like you wish the earth would swallow me whole on the spot an then turn your back and ignore my existence. I just want that to end. I want for us to be able to acknowledge and accept where we are at in life. We both need to move. Just don't be an ass. Ignore me or not. Just don't be completely rude. You are a better person than that. Please act upon that. Your current friends deserve better than that. Show them what kind of person you can be even if you won't act that way around me.

Friday, April 1, 2011

Small town Iowa...Pella style

Ever think that big cities can be confusing to drive? Lots of traffic, hard to read street signs, no sense of direction, feeling turned around? These seem to be pretty common issues that people face when driving in larger cities that they are unfamiliar with. I know that I have had some interesting adventures while driving in Chicago, St. Louis, etc. However, I would not think that somewhere like Pella, Iowa could be as infuriating to drive in as a huge city. I mean, in all honesty, Pella only has about 10,000 people within its city limits. How confusing could it really be?

Well Pella itself was not the issue tonight. In fact, Pella has great streets with little windmills and all. They are easy to read. The roads seem pretty much straight--no strange or unexpected turns due to rivers and what not. The issue came in tonight due to the following issues:
  1. the individual in charge of the logistics of the conference did not provide attendees with the address of the college president's address
  2. the address is not posted online
  3. college students are not the most clued-in people ever (i.e. an inability to give directions to places outside of the college campus)
  4. there are at least 3 streets with the exact same name in Pella--that DO NOT connect
  5. Main St. is under construction and there are little to no signs about detours (the student left that direction out)
Any one of these obstacles might be easily overcome; however all of them combined made for quite the adventure for Wendy and I tonight. It ultimately took 45 minutes to find the house we were looking for in a town with 10,000 people in it. How many laps did we make of Pella? Answer: I have no clue! How frustrated was I? Answer Very!

I suppose in the end, the statement that "Everyday in service-learning is an adventure" certainly held up. In fact, I can't really think of a time that this statement hasn't been true. In reality, getting lost in Pella, Iowa isn't that big of a deal. It is just highly annoying.

There has been some good/entertainment that has come of my time in Pella. Here are some of my favorite quotes overheard while eating at the local "Pizza Ranch" (which serves not only pizza, but also fried chicken, fried fish, mashed potatoes, and green beans).
  • "I only have 2 brain cells left--one is in critical condition."
  • "Hi, what's your name?" "Cody" "Oh, hi Jody." "NO--CODY!" "Hi, Jody." "NO!!! CODY!!!"
  • "I am in an ornery mood tonight."