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Friends Come and Friends Go

I have always known that friends come and go in one's life. It seems like a natural part of life. There are some friends who are meant to be there for a long time, and then there are others who are only in our lives for a short time. Then there are those friends who you think will be there for you for a long time, but life sometimes has other plans for those friends.

I am thinking of one friend in particular. I met this individual my first few days at Coe. Things seemed pretty great. We had a lot in common, hung out all the time, and got to know the inner workings of Coe together. I always imagined that she would be one those friends that I would have in my life for years to come. That all seemed to change right around the time I graduated from Coe. Suddenly our priorities in life seemed completely different. I was worried about what I would be doing with my life after college, and she was worried about who her next boyfriend would be.

I realized that we were drifting apart and wasn't completely thrilled by that. We had been good friends for 2 years, but that doesn't seem to matter anymore. I don't have anything against her. We just have different priorities now. We drifted apart. That happens in life. There is no reason to have animosity towards one another. Just like there is no reason to be rude to the other. Obviously, there is no reason to go out our way to interact with one another. However, if we cross paths, please don't just ignore my existence. Being rude and turning your back to me does no good. It just makes you look like an ass. I hold no grudge. I would like to be able to say "hi" and ask "How is life going? Congrats on getting a job for after graduation!" It would be completely sincere, yet I feel like you wouldn't believe me. I am not asking for us to be friends or to hang out like we used to. Can we at least acknowledge our shared history and common humanity? Is that too much to ask?

I know we will probably never speak since every time I have seen you lately you glare at me like you wish the earth would swallow me whole on the spot an then turn your back and ignore my existence. I just want that to end. I want for us to be able to acknowledge and accept where we are at in life. We both need to move. Just don't be an ass. Ignore me or not. Just don't be completely rude. You are a better person than that. Please act upon that. Your current friends deserve better than that. Show them what kind of person you can be even if you won't act that way around me.

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